“All of a sudden
two decades have passed and you still have not kissed anyone with
tongue, or kissed anyone at all for that matter, or had a 3 AM
conversation with someone who would rather look into your eyes
for ten minutes straight than talk. You have never worn a
lover’s sweater or “forgotten” it at home in
your bedroom just so you would have an excuse to see them again.
You have never even stood face-to-face with someone who makes
your hands shake so hard it feels like they’re both having
a separate anxiety attack. This causes you much guilt and
self-blame and sadness but above all, an overwhelming curiosity.
Are you really that ugly, that unwanted, that uninteresting, that
boring, that no one, absolutely no one, has ever looked at you
like the only thing on earth? The answer is no. The better answer
is that someone out there, somewhere in the world, is
“wondering what it’s like to meet someone like
you,” and they have two decades worth of love stored in
their veins like a shoot-‘em-up drug, and they’re
just about ready to inject it into someone else’s
bloodstream. All you have to do is roll up your sleeves and wait
for it to happen. At times you felt so lonely you could stand at
the edge of a cliff with nothing beneath you but air and grass
and a long, long way down, and you’d still feel emptier
than that canyon itself. Maybe you even danced with yourself
alone in your room a few times, arms outstretched around a ghost,
pretending someone else’s hands were on your waist, someone
else’s eyes boring into yours. Or maybe you fell
temporarily in love with strangers on public transportation, fell
in love with anybody who so much as accidentally brushed your
hand on the way past. For you, falling in love with dozens of
people a day was a coping mechanism for not having anyone to love
you in return. But people are not eggs and falling in love with a
dozen of them does not mean your shell will remain uncracked. One
day you’re going to hit the point where you’re so
desperate for human contact that you’re going to snap in
half and all your love will bleed out like egg yolk. But someone
out there is eating a bowl of Ramen noodles right now, or putting
on slippers, or settling into bed. They are doing all the normal
things that you’ve done in your own life . They are just
like you. They have cellulite and extra fat in all the wrong
places and goals and fears and doubts and bad handwriting. The
truth is that they are just like you, and being just like you,
they’re looking for a lover too. They’re what you
might call a soulmate. They think they’re all alone in
feeling the way they do, but you’re really both two halves
of a whole. And one day you’ll meet them, bump into them on
the street, and your two halves will be put together, and
you’ll make one.”