So
I was reading this article on how to let go of a past relationship.
None of it made sense until I got to one specific paragraph. This
really opened my eyes. "It said remember what you were like
before your most recent past relationship. Remember the strong,
happy, passionate person that once attracted your ex. If you
remember that person and bring that person back then your going to
get through
this loss, and attract someone equally amazing in
the future when the time is right. If you stay a sad, depressed,
guilt-ridden person trying to clutch at what once was then
it's going to be a long time before you find the next person
to put a smile on your face as this past person did. If you
can't remember who you once were, then get to know yourself
again. Try to remember what you love about life."
<<<--- (I rewrote it) I never thought of it this way.
Maybe this is why all my past relationships didn't work out
for that long. Everyone changes when your in a relationship with
someone. The way you act tends to change, the way you see the
world tends to change. If you learn to be the same person before
you get into your next relationship then maybe the relationship
will work out. Be yourself. Don't change. The only thing that
changes is that your now in a relationship and need to be loyal.
I'm a VERY loyal person. But I change when I'm in a
relationship. It's almost like it's all about the person
I'm with. It's like I have to be with that person at all
times. But I know now that that's not the way a relationship
works. You've got to learn to give your partner space to be
their own person. You can do things together, but you should also
be able to go and do things on your own. I'm going to take
this advice that I've learned from what I read and maybe
(just maybe) my next relationship will last longer then usual.
:D