you’ve gotten this far, you’ve probably unknowingly
received her approval, but that doesn’t mean you’re
‘in’ yet. The key to bonding with your future sibling
is to build your own relationship
with her. Sounds a tad intimidating, I’m sure.
your future sister is going to be a bridesmaid, she needs a special
gift. In my opinion, a personalized present is the easiest way to
Find out what her interests are and make an effort to talk about
how she spends her free time. Try and carve out some time so you
can be alone together. Do an activity, go for a walk/drive. Just
something so you can get in a quality conversation from time to
1] Enquire about her husband, children, work etc.
you think your sister-in-law is a good cook, tell her. And
don\'t forget to ask for her recipe.
Here are 10 things to remember as the years go by:
1. Don’t try to impress her.
In the beginning it’s pretty hard to resist. You want to make
sure she likes you, but going overboard will only hurt your
chances. Instead of showing off your personality and talents, show
her how much you love her brother.
2. Learn to ignore things.
She’s going to say and do things that bug you. Knowing when
to brush them off is essential to building any relationship.
3. Understand and
accept their relationship.
When my only brother got engaged, I got jealous. I love my new
sister and she’s the perfect person for my brother, but she
also became the leading lady in his life. While I still have an
amazing relationship with my sibling, it’s different.
I’m no longer his confidant, partner, or best
friend—she is. But guess what? I now have a
sister—something I’ve always wanted.
My SIL was patient and understanding when it came to my brother and
me. She respected what we had and worked on building something
special with me. I recommend you give this a shot, too.
4. Learn how to compromise.
The key to any great connection is communication and compromise.
You’ll need it with your new
husband and your new SIL.
5. Pick your battles.
You won’t always be able to ignore things, but be careful
when choosing your battles. If she crosses the line, call her out!
Just handle it in a kind and constructive way.
6. Keep them out of your marriage.
This tip is huge—and one you should remind your fiancé
about. If he’s close with his siblings, he probably confides
in them. But your marriage should be something the two of you work
on, and third-party advice isn’t always desired. Your
arguments, issues, and intimacy should stay between the two of you.
Getting the SIL involved won’t help in the end.
7. She’s an individual—not just another member
of his family.
The SIL is just one part of the family. Get to know her on a deep,
personal level—you’ll be happy you did.
8. Spend one-on-one time together.
Find things the two of you have in common and use them as a
9. Think of them as an ally.
She’s a woman—there are things she’ll understand
about you that your spouse won’t. She can be the ultimate
ally, not only in his family but in your life!
10. Be yourself.
Your fiancé fell in love with you for a reason—she
will too! Be yourself and you may just find the sister you never
Do you have any pets? What is your favorite thing to do in
summer? What is the most annoying book/movie/song you have ever
heard? What do you love most in life? I hope you and your future
sister become great friends, but don't beat yourself up if
she doesn't take to you.