When I was younger I had this feeling that there was this handbook
that I had never gotten. It explained how to be, how to laugh, what
to wear, how to stand by yourself in the hallway. Everyone else
looked so natural, like they had all practiced and knew exactly
what to do.
My experience was the opposite. I conscious of how I sat, how I
smiled, and when I was alone with another person, I had nooooo idea
what to do or what to say... I could just feel myself panic. It
sucked....
So I tried to pick up on the patterns. I wore what they wore, and
said what they said. And over time, it sorta worked in a way. I
made this version of me that fit in... Whatever that
means.
But over time, the patterns kept changing and it took so much
effort to keep on learning them. And I was still stuck with the
problem I had started with! Being terrified of the moment when my
tricks stopped working.
I think it took me too long to realize something. That even though
there is a thing called "fitting in" and it's
something that you can learn and practice, those pages are so thin
compared to who you are, that the way to become natural;like I
wanted to be so badly; is by forgetting what you're trying to
be to other people, and if there is a handbook, you probably get to
write it yourself ♥