sleepy

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Joined: September 15, 2013
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Quotes by sleepy

Your sexuality was
not formed in a vacuum
and your preferences are not above criticism for any reason and if you think you
"just happen"
to be attracted to thin cis white people lemme tell u that didn't just appear out of no where.
When I loved myself enough,
I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits — anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.
People (mostly men)
are always insisting that "we need a friendly feminism" and I'm kind of at a loss for what that is. I'm always like, well how do we "friendly" fight for liberation from patriachy? Why do we need to be "friends" with people who obviously don't even treat us as humans? We, as women, have always had to be friends of men. We have been forced to always be just your friend, the one who is going to support you and be by your side constantly, but not one who will ever be able to succeed on our own.

And now that we're rejecting this whole idea of being your [men's] side kick, they [men] want us to be "friendly" in our fight. They want us to coddle them, to carry them and sweetly tell them it's okay, that we're not going to hurt them in our fight for liberation. They want to know that even while we fight for our own good, that their success won't be ruined.

Well, that's not it. We are going to tread on your toes, we're going to break your heart, we're not going to fight against patriarchy "friendly" — or nicely, or sweetly. We're going to do it in the
most shocking way possible
in order for us to finally be seen as wholes.
sometimes suffering is just suffering. it doesn't make you stronger. it doesn't build character. it only hurts.
brown girls appreciating/
recognizing their beauty is some radical revolutionary sh it
It
was
love
at
first
sight,
at
last
sight,
at
ever
and
ever
sight.
it's so strange
how life works. You want something and you ———————————
wait
and
wait
and feel like
“it's taking forever”
to come. Then it
happens and it's over
and all you want to do is curl back up in that moment before things changed.
The mainstream feminism that people often picture is often very, very, very......inclusive? And as I have become more comfortable in my skin as a woman of colour, I have realized that the mainstream feminism movement is one that I can't really align with.

Many feminists that I have encountered focus on issues that can only offer liberation in a form that would only liberate them and women that look like them -- the same skin, the same gender, the same body type...
If I were to even look through the quotes on Witty that were tagged under "feminism", excluding the occasional quotes that are against feminism, I would see quotes that were focused on (but are not limited to) accepting all cis, white body types.
And, well, not all women are white. And the stigma that many women of colour face from racis m added onto the stigma of misogyny is one that the mainstream feminism is not able to accomadate.

Intersectionalism in the mainstream feminism movement falls short. In theory, there would be more conversation amongst deconstructing the structure which upholds the idea that all women are the same and white feminists would be able to use their privilege to persuade others that idea needs to be abolished while being able to fight for liberation of all women. And, I'm sure, many feminists that are aligned with the movement realize this. However when it comes down to it, many feminists still use the same rhetoric that focus on the same ideas that lack intersection. Intersectionalism is not reading a few quotes from bell hoooks and other women of colour and reiterating it, it is actually including women of colour, women of colour who don't fit into the gender binaries, women of colour who may not fit into the cisgendered portrait into the movement.

Many feminists are still ra cist, transphobic, homophobic -- you name it. And (again, using Witty as an example) if I were to just go through the quotes on Witty, I would be able to find a few people that can grasp their mind around the fact that white women are still confined by the shackles of the patriarchy but can't do the same about the fact that women of colour that have to endure raci sm-fueled sexism.
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