What you SHOULD say to people dealing with any of
Anxiety: This too shall pass, even if that
sounds corny and cliche. Your anxiety will subside, you are not
dying, you will not die from this, everything is going to be
fine. Keep taking deep breaths, try and stay focused.
Depression: You are valid and your emotions are
valid. You are a good, strong person, even if you don't feel
like you are right now. Things do get better, and I know you can
get through this.
Se.xual Orientation: Your body, your life, your
bedroom. You choose what you do with it, and I get no say in the
matter, because I am not you. I'll respect you no matter
Bipolar: The sun also rises. For all your bad
days, weeks, or longer--you also have good ones just beyond the
horizon. You know better than anyone what it means to finally hit
those "highs" in your life. And I hope that you just
keep growing and strengthening yourself through your treatment to
extend those happy moments.
Self harm: This is your body and I'll never
pass judgement over you for the things you choose to do with it.
However, you should really consider speaking with a counselor
about this. Not because you're "bad", but because I
just want you to be safe.
Eating disorders: It's okay to eat, you have
permission. Eating will not make you fat, ugly, or worthless.
Eating will make you strong, healthy, and lively. You deserve to
eat, you deserve happiness.
Abuse: What they did was wrong, and you had no
consenting part in it. You have no need to feel guilty or shamed,
although I understand that may be exactly how you are feeling
right now. They're the ones at fault here, and the ball is
entirely in your court if you choose to report them for that,
which you are rightfully entitled to do.
Suicide: Suicide is a permanent solution to a
temporary problem. You are valuable and your existence is
valuable. There are billions of people on this planet, and even
if you think everyone hates you and no one cares, they do and
they will. You can find so many friends and loved ones if you
just allow yourself the time to look for them. The world turns
out to be a beautiful place and you deserve to be alive to see
Se.xual assault: What they did was vile and
disgusting. Yes, you're now left with this horrible,
traumatic event to move on from, but your life is not entirely
lost. Recovery is possible, and an unfortunately large number of
people have to go through that-- but they make it to the other
side. So can you, you can do this. You're not dirty,
you're not a "s|ut" or a "wh0re", you are
a human being whose rights were violated. But you are strong, and
I know you can move past this in due time.
Multiple Personality Disorder: I'll always
love you no matter who you are. I only hope the absolute best for
you during your recovery and treatment, and maybe one day
I'll be so privileged as to love you as one whole.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: The pain of
suddenly reliving horrific events is almost unimaginable for me.
Please try and remember that although it feels like it's real
and it's happening right now, that it's not. You are
okay, you are fine, and you are safe. You are in the present here
and now, and that past can't manifest itself again to come
and physically hurt you. Everything is just fine, these feelings
will pass and you're going to be okay.
Schizophrenia: I am real and I can promise you
that. I care. Try and find something grounding for you, an object
that you can cling to to help you distinguish between whether or
not you're hallucinating. You are not a freak, you are not a
monster. You're a human being with rights and emotions who
happens to be ill right now.