hide behind the word 'shy' like it's an excuse.
It's not even an excuse, it's apart of me. It's a
part of my genetic makeup. Being shy is one of my
characteristics. I can try to be more loud every once in a
while, but that's not going to stop me from instinctively
growing quieter and more reserved when I'm in a new
environment. You can't just tell me to stop being shy. Do
you really expect that to help? If it was that easy don't
you think it would have stopped by now? I get that it's
weird and hard for people who aren't shy to understand,
so if you're one of those people, and you ever told
someone to stop being shy, just stop for a moment and realise
what you're actually asking. You're not asking that
person to stop clicking their pen because it's annoying.
You're telling them to not be something they are probably
insecure about, and have zero control over.