What a Smart
smart woman knows that when she looks at herself in the mirror, it
is never about what’s right or wrong or not enough. But
instead she sees a precious person who is alive and whole and worth
so much more than the sum of her parts.
She knows she is not her body, her face, her job, or her
relationships with people. She knows she is never her mistakes,
her scars, her insecurities or her past. She doesn’t let
them define, constrain or hold her back. She turns them into
strengths and motivations to become a better person each day.
Not only is she strong and courageous like that, a smart woman
also makes sure she treats herself with care, respect and
While being real, open and honest, she accepts and stands up for
everything she is, she was and has been, and never runs away from
challenges. She strives to be independent but she knows the
importance of having people to trust.
For her, life is too short to not do what she wants and be who
she wants, and she doesn’t intend to waste any second of
it. That’s why she’s so fun and daring.
She allows herself to let loose, to be all too much, to fall in
love with people whom she shouldn’t fall for, to be silly
and go on adventures, to follow her dreams and maybe even get
Because she knows that’s how she learns and changes and
goes beyond her limits. That’s how her heart races and her
entire being is lifted up. And ultimately, that’s the way
she experiences life to its fullest and deepens her capacity of
love, empathy and compassion.
A smart woman is also aware of her privileges, disadvantages and
weaknesses. She doesn’t try to hide them but she faces them
and grows with them. She understands the power of her beauty and
femininity as a woman, and she knows how to use it and embrace it
while respecting and supporting other women and the men in her
life all the same.
She’s proud of being a woman and all that it entails.
She reminds herself everyday to stay humble and grounded and be
grateful for everything that she is given in life.
Importantly, a smart woman is true to herself and her feelings.
She knows when to hold on and when to let go and she isn’t
afraid to do either.
She isn’t afraid to admit when she wants a partner in her
life, a heated body on her bed, cheesy words whispered into her
ears, and sometimes, yes, she is lonely and she has her needs. Or
even if she is fine without any of these things, she feels no
urge to explain herself in any circumstance.
Because she’s smart, she’s clear about her desires
and intentions — be it love,
romance, or even forbidden fantasies, and it’s how
she’s able to find people who meet her expectations and are
satisfied by what she’s capable of giving.
Though, being smart doesn’t mean she stops making mistakes
in relationships — she will still do, and will still hurt
herself occasionally — but she’s surely getting
better at choosing her companions as she learns more and more
At least she knows better than proving her worth to the people
who don’t appreciate her, or prioritizing those who only
regard her as an option.
What she does instead is look for the quality ones who add value
and laughter to her life, who become a positive force and push
her forward. They are the people who see her and really see her.
They bring out the best in her while cherishing her for all what
Inevitably, there are times a smart woman, like any other woman,
is clouded by her feelings and ends up being stupid. There will
also be dark moments when she feels doubtful and stuck and
hopeless to the point of losing her sense of self and even
forgetting that she’s indeed a smart woman.
And so she’s convinced she’s no one and she’s
But because she’s smart, she will know it’s not true.
She will find out that there’s always a door to better days
and as she opens her hand, the key has been there all along.
Because it’s her, not anyone else, who decides whether
she’s good or not.
As long as she keeps on believing that she has so much in her to
offer and never gives up on a bright future ahead, at some point
along the way, she will be able to make sense of the path she has
walked, the destinations she has arrived to.
She will figure out what to do best with her time, and see
clearly why certain things didn’t work out, or why she had
never been sure and ready before. Then she will look back and she
will start to realize maybe she has always been exactly where she
needs to be.