Somebody loves you if they pick an eyelash off of your face or
wet a napkin and apply it to your dirty skin. You didn’t
ask for these things, but this person went ahead and did it
anyway. They don’t want to see you looking like a fool
with eyelashes and crumbs on your face. They notice these
things. They really look at you and are the first to notice if
something is amiss with your beautiful visage!
Somebody loves you if they assume the role of caretaker when
you’re sick. Unsure if someone really gives a
you? Fake a case of food poisoning and text them being like,
“Oh, my God, so sick. Need water.” Depending on
their response, you’ll know whether or not they REALLY
love you. “That’s terrible. Feel better!”
earns you a stay in friendship jail; “Do you need
anything? I can come over and bring you get well
remedies!” gets you a cozy friendship suite. It’s
easy to care about someone when they don’t need you.
It’s easy to love them when they’re healthy and
don’t ask you for anything beyond change for the parking
meter. Being sick is different. Being sick means asking someone
to hold your hair back when you vomit. Either love me with
vomit in my hair or don’t love me at all.
Somebody loves you if they call you out on your
They’re not passive, they don’t just let you get
away with murder. They know you well enough and care about you
enough to ask you to chill out, to bust your b.alls, to
tell you to stop. They aren’t passive observers in your
life, they are in the trenches. They have an opinion about your
decisions and the things you say and do. They want to be a part
of it; they want to be a part of you.
Somebody loves you if they don’t mind the quiet. They
don’t mind running errands with you or cleaning your
apartment while blasting some annoying music. There’s no
pressure, no need to fill the silences. You know how with some
of your friends there needs to be some sort of activity for you
to hang out? You don’t feel comfortable just shooting the
watching bad reality TV with them. You need something that will
keep the both of you busy to ensure there won’t be a
void. That’s not love. That’s “Hey, babe! I
like you okay. Do you wanna grab lunch? I think we have enough
to talk about to fill two hours!” It’s a damn dream
when you find someone you can do nothing with. Whether
you’re skydiving together or sitting at home and doing
different things, it’s always comfortable. That is
Somebody loves you if they want you to be happy, even if that
involves something that doesn’t benefit them. They
realize the things you need to do in order to be content and
come to terms with the fact that it might not include them.
Never underestimate the gift of understanding. When there are
so many people who are selfish and equate relationships as
something that only must make them happy, having someone around
who can take their needs out of any given situation if they
Somebody loves you if they can order you food without having to
be told what you want. Somebody loves you if they rub your back
at any given moment. Somebody loves you if they give you oral
expecting anything back. Somebody loves you if they don’t
care about your job or how much money you make. It’s a
relationship where no one is selling something to the other. No
one is the p.rostitute. Somebody loves you
if they’ll watch a movie starring Kate Hudson because you
really really want to see it. Somebody loves you if
they’re able to create their own separate world with you,
away from the internet and your job and family and friends.
Just you and them.
Somebody will always love you. If you don’t think this is
true, then you’re not paying close enough attention.