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So you want to killl yourself? Please read, Suicide is not chosen;

So you want to killl yourself? Please read,
 
Suicide is not chosen; it happens

when pain exceeds 
resources for coping with pain. 

Thats all its about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesnt even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.

You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.

Now I want to tell you five things to think about.


1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.

2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, I will wait 24 hours before I do anything. Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesnt mean that you have to it is up to you.

3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.

4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone whats going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans 
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S. 
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999 
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line 
Call a psychotherapist 
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen 
But dont give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.

5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet, us witty girls can talk to you bu that only goes so far.

I LOVE YOU ALL WITTY GIRLS!

- skinnyminikitty, please do not jock, and please, if u ever need to talk to me im here

11 Comments

CrushOnYou 9 years ago
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Truth
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[deleted] 9 years ago
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amazing
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HeReToHeLp101 9 years ago
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this is a really amazing quote
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kitkatkristi 9 years ago
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so freakin AMAZING
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BecausePhalangesAreFingers 9 years ago
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gah this is so amazing. I am so glad that you care! and then, when other people see this, they realise they care too. I am so glad that you're there for the people who don't have anyone to turn to. May I put a link to this on my profile? like jimmy365, I want people to understand! xx [;
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KRH 9 years ago
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Hey I dont know you but my one friends is contaplating suicid and i was wondering if i could sean her this
Plezz coment back
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LittleOne1138 9 years ago
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most AMAZING quote ive ever read
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jimmy365 9 years ago
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i think this is great and there's a link to it on my profile i hope everyone realizes the importance
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HannahBananaaaa 1 decade ago
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How the hell does this just get 7 faves? this should be at the top of witty right now<3 (:
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storygirl123 1 decade ago
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thank. you.
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amberrenee93 1 decade ago
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I see this as a miracle to me. Not even literally 5 minutes ago, I was contemplating suicide. I refreshed my witty page and there this was, I know I dont know you and you dont know me but, I love you. You showed me that someone cares. Thank you for saving my life tonight..
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skinnyminikitty

posted November 23, 2011 at 7:15pm UTC tagged with advice

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