It's true that some kids become abusive, but that's usually because they don't know how to handle a situation so they base it off of what their parents used to do. If he cares about you and hasn't hurt you and is strongly against abuse and everything, then I don't think he'll be one of those kids. If you believe in him, then prove to your parents how great he is. Bring him over to dinner or something, or maybe just show how happy he really makes you. It sounds like your parents are attempting to look out for you, so if you show them he's harmless and that you're happy, then I think everything'll work out. Good luck!<3
He's been to my house numerous times, and I found out that my parents are just afraid of what could happen in the future, since his family is really messed up, and they don't want me around that.
They told me he hasn't done anything wrong, but last night, my mom and dad had a long talk, and eventually let me keep him. ♥
Yeah you're welcome. I understand. Try telling your parents how you feel about the whole thing. But if he shows any signs of abuse I think you should listen to your parents.
It's your life, stand up for him, and if she tells you to break up, tell her no. If you love this guy as much as it seems so, you let her know, ans I would trust if he were ever to turn out abusive you would stand up for yourself there too.
I wish I could tell her no. She is very strict, and she is one of those people you don't say no to. If he ever were to turn out abusive, he'd be gone in a heartbeat.
I understand, and I really hope everything works out okay for you, I'm so sorry for the trouble you're in but I don't know what else to say. I'm sorry.
Something else, I'm afraid she won't let me be with him. His opinion is that he's very against abuse, and he would never hurt someone. I love him with all of my heart, but I'm afraid she won't let me be with him, or see him in school, or ever let him come over again. She has told me she kind of wants me to start making other friends, and getting close to them. She did ask how did she think I could handle breaking up with him, and I told her I wouldn't be able to handle it. I'm afraid she's gonna try and get me to separate with him, which would tear me apart.
The thing is that your parents are assuming that he is the abusive type. YOU have to let them see that he is not. WORDS are just words until theres some action going on. Someone might say, "I love you." yeah? anyone can say that. You have to show it. IF HE'S saying that he is not abusive then he has to tell your parents that. words are just words but actions have wayy more meaning.
He has told my parents. Not directly "I'm not abusive" but they've had conversations and somehow he said "I'd never hit a girl, especially someone I love." They both are kind to him, but now my mom's starting to have doubts, since she's finding out more about his family.
His family isn't exactly a normal family. My mom doesn't really approve of his mom, she's a deadbeat. She pretty much assumes he's like his family, since he's been raised in a "messed up environment"
What going on through my head when she doesn't trust me; dnf9q 3gw48dfgh67efg546gfg-fgY@#&*$Y3q.
Yeah. She is afraid of our future, such as the holidays. If we were to grow up together, and there was a time to visit his family during a holiday, it wouldn't be a good idea. You know, druggies, assultors, violence, not the best to be around.
*Sings song by Bon jovi* IT'S MY LIFFFFFFEEE ITS NOW OR NEVER; I AINT GONNA LIVE FOREVER. I'M JUST GONNA LIVE WHILE I'M ALIVE. ITS. MY. LIFE." Lolol. I know, but apparently to them, my future will be bad. :/
She let me keep him(: ♥ I know, I know, I'm too young. But I'm very attached to him, and in my situation, I was about to lose my closest friend who's done nothing wrong, that I've been with for 7 and a half months.
Well.... it's your life. If you two love each other then you should be together. Even if your parents don't want you guys to be together because of something that is PROBABLY not going to happen in the future.Your parents can't see the future. they can't be saying that he is going to be abusive because NO ONE KNOWS THAT! Your parents can't decided you and your boyfriend's future. Its between you guys and no one else. It's YOUR relationship. If you THINK that your parents are right, then you should probably talk to your boyfriend.
Exactly, something COULD happen in the future, ANYTHING could happen though. Thank you so much. I'm just afraid I'm gonna break down if they bring it up again, if if they'll ever let him come over.
They told me he hasn't done anything wrong, but last night, my mom and dad had a long talk, and eventually let me keep him. ♥
Yeah. She is afraid of our future, such as the holidays. If we were to grow up together, and there was a time to visit his family during a holiday, it wouldn't be a good idea. You know, druggies, assultors, violence, not the best to be around.