“You cannot
change anyone but yourself.” When people
don’t live up to your expectations,
it’s not unusual to feel responsible for
changing their behavior, especially if they are
close to you. You may try and try – but when
you don’t succeed, you end up feeling
depressed and like a failure.
Changing another person can be a frustrating,
impossible goal. Realize that people only change
when they want to. Changing someone else is not
your job!
When you put yourself in the position of
controlling the uncontrollable you place a heavy
burden on yourself. Not only do you feel weighted
down, but you use up tremendous amounts of energy
in this pursuit.
Instead, channel your focus toward things that you
can control, such as yourself. It’s a much
more peaceful and productive way to live.
Feel the appreciation, happiness, and gratefulness
for all that surrounds you and all that is within
you.
Imagine having the life that you have always
wanted. Then feel inside those feelings that you
would have if you were already experiencing all
that you desire. Combine that with these feelings
of gratitude now for what you do have.
Focus on the positive things in your life. Release
the negative thoughts, feeling, and actions.
Release those feelings, the people and the things
that bring you down or affect you negatively in
anyway or at least set boundaries for yourself.
Live your life as if you already have the things
that you desire. How? By believing and expressing
yourself as if you had them or are living your
dreams.
Be grateful for all that you have, for the life you
have been given, for your family and friends, your
job, and your home. Be thankful and give thanks for
the abundance and prosperity that blesses you each
and every day.
Feel the appreciation, happiness, and gratefulness
for all that surrounds you and all that is within
you.
Absolutely convinced
The way to get yourself to do anything is to first
accept that you must do it. Until you stop fighting
against yourself, you’ll never get much
done.
It is common and natural to avoid difficult,
challenging effort. Even so, you can always choose
to allow yourself to make the effort.
You absolutely have the ability to do the necessary
work and reach whatever goal you set for yourself.
To fully unleash that ability, you just have to
fully and sincerely buy into the goal.
It is essential that you completely convince
yourself of the worthiness and desirability of what
you intend to do. Once you are absolutely
convinced, you’ll be absolutely
committed.
The most important person to have on your side is
you. Once you are truly convinced and committed,
you’ll be able to get other people convinced
and committed.
When it means everything to you, you’ll make
the commitment to do whatever it takes. And with
that total commitment, you’ll get it
done.