Stop. Do not insult him. Do not call him heartless or selfish

Stop. Do not insult him. Do not call him heartless or selfish or deceitful. (We all know he is the antithesis of that.) You are allowed to be mad—nobody is saying otherwise—but he blames himself enough that there's no need for you to as well. Nobody is at fault anyway, so put your finger down. And I'm sure you've seen his tears, but I almost wish you had heard him, stunned in silence with nothing to say but "I know; I'm sorry," sobbing for an hour—after all you put him through—about how you are such a good person. He is not the one who needs to go fxck himself.