Most people prefer to think that their resentment is entirely the
fault of the person they resent, and that twisted logic seems to
make sense in their minds. But it makes no sense to me at all.
It's like saying it's your fault if i shoot you, because
the gun is aiming at you. It completely disregards who's
doing the aiming. But it's a popular point of view. Probably
because it's so much easier. It relieves you of a burden of
any and all self-examination.