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If you’ve gotten this far, you’ve probably unknowingly

If you’ve gotten this far, you’ve probably unknowingly received her approval, but that doesn’t mean you’re ‘in’ yet. The key to bonding with your future sibling is to build your own relationship with her. Sounds a tad intimidating, I’m sure.


If your future sister is going to be a bridesmaid, she needs a special gift. In my opinion, a personalized present is the easiest way to go. - 


-texting
-shopping
-spa
-mani/pedi
-mini vacation



Find out what her interests are and make an effort to talk about how she spends her free time. Try and carve out some time so you can be alone together. Do an activity, go for a walk/drive. Just something so you can get in a quality conversation from time to time. ---

1] Enquire about her husband, children, work etc.
2] 
If you think your sister-in-law is a good cook, tell her. And don\'t forget to ask for her recipe.

Here are 10 things to remember as the years go by:

1. Don’t try to impress her.

In the beginning it’s pretty hard to resist. You want to make sure she likes you, but going overboard will only hurt your chances. Instead of showing off your personality and talents, show her how much you love her brother.

2. Learn to ignore things.

She’s going to say and do things that bug you. Knowing when to brush them off is essential to building any relationship.

3. Understand and accept their relationship.

When my only brother got engaged, I got jealous. I love my new sister and she’s the perfect person for my brother, but she also became the leading lady in his life. While I still have an amazing relationship with my sibling, it’s different. I’m no longer his confidant, partner, or best friend—she is. But guess what? I now have a sister—something I’ve always wanted.

My SIL was patient and understanding when it came to my brother and me. She respected what we had and worked on building something special with me. I recommend you give this a shot, too.

4. Learn how to compromise.

The key to any great connection is communication and compromise. You’ll need it with your new husband and your new SIL.

5. Pick your battles.

You won’t always be able to ignore things, but be careful when choosing your battles. If she crosses the line, call her out! Just handle it in a kind and constructive way.

6. Keep them out of your marriage.

This tip is huge—and one you should remind your fiancé about. If he’s close with his siblings, he probably confides in them. But your marriage should be something the two of you work on, and third-party advice isn’t always desired. Your arguments, issues, and intimacy should stay between the two of you. Getting the SIL involved won’t help in the end.

7. She’s an individual—not just another member of his family.

The SIL is just one part of the family. Get to know her on a deep, personal level—you’ll be happy you did.

8. Spend one-on-one time together.

Find things the two of you have in common and use them as a foundation.

9. Think of them as an ally.

She’s a woman—there are things she’ll understand about you that your spouse won’t. She can be the ultimate ally, not only in his family but in your life!

10. Be yourself.

Your fiancé fell in love with you for a reason—she will too! Be yourself and you may just find the sister you never had.



Do you have any pets? What is your favorite thing to do in summer? What is the most annoying book/movie/song you have ever heard? What do you love most in life? I hope you and your future sister become great friends, but don't beat yourself up if she doesn't take to you.

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