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Please leave format credit to 1986! People who like to be in

People who like to be in control of things can have a hard time with intimacy. Intimacy is anarchic and mutual and definitionally incompatible with control. You seek to control things because you are afraid.

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seafoam*

posted September 16, 2016 at 3:08pm UTC tagged with control, intimacy, vulnerability, jonathanfranzen, quote

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Format by destabilise. Often, when we have a crush, when we l.ust for a person, we see only a small percentage of who they really are. The rest we make up for ourselves. Rather than listen, or learn, we smother them in who we imagine them to be, what we desire for ourselves, we create little fantasies of people and let them grow in our hearts. And this is where the relationship fails. In time, the fiction we scribble onto a person falls away, the lies we tell ourselves unravel and soon the person standing in front of you is almost unrecognizable, you are now complete strangers in your own love. And what a terrible shame it is. My advice: pay attention to the small details of people, you will learn that the universe is far more spectacular an author than we could ever hope to be. — Beau Taplin, The Fictions of People
And never have I felt so deeply at one and, at the same time, so detached from myself, and so present in the world.