Often, when we have a crush,
when we l.ust
for a person, we see only a small percentage of who they
really are. The rest we make up for ourselves. Rather than
listen, or learn, we smother them in who we imagine them to
be, what we desire for ourselves, we create little fantasies
of people and let them grow in our hearts. And this is where
the relationship fails. In time, the fiction we scribble onto
a person falls away, the lies we tell ourselves unravel and
soon the person standing in front of you is almost
unrecognizable, you are now complete strangers in your own
love. And what a terrible shame it is. My advice: pay
attention to the small details of people, you will learn that
the universe is far more spectacular an author than we could
ever hope to be.
— Beau Taplin,
The Fictions of
People