new year's resolutions
i know the new year began a month ago but who cares bc you
don't need to wait until a change of a year to change your
life
this isn't really for just me but for all of you bc i know
some of you are struggling with the same things i do so okay.
there are only 2 but they are my 2 main ones the rest are things
quite minor to me. here they are:
1. please stop being so sensitive and caring about what
others think. i have gotten a lot better with this
since the beginning of 2014, but there's always room for
improvement. stop taking everything so personally, because more
than half the time whatever someone says that bothers you has
nothing to do with you. accept that criticism may be harsh at
times, but most of it is only to help you improve. don't be
discouraged if something someone did/said bothers you, let it
bother you--but don't allow it to ruin your whole day. quit
worrying about what people would think if you wore a certain type
of shoe or found out that you like a certain type of music. if
you like it, embrace it, and never mind any people who cannot
accept that. if it does not offend a specific group of people,
NEVER be ashamed of your interests, because they're part of
who you are. NEVER be ashamed of who you are, and don't allow
anyone to make you feel ashamed. and if they do, tell them to get
their heads out of their behinds and ditch them; because someone
who can't appreciate YOU doesn't deserve YOU in their
lives. a tiger never loses sleep over the opinion of sheep.
tl;dr have thick skin, live your life and try your best
to cut out the people who don't like what you're doing w/
it or bring negativity
2. just go talk to the hot boy/girl/person you like!!! just GO do
it. i can't tell you HOW many opportunities i missed
for finding potential friendships/relationships in 2014 because i
was afraid to take things a step further. i'm not nearly as
shy as i was before (like i can go up and start conversations now
w/ no problem) but throughout 2014 i've met some really
interesting (and attractive) people and i was too timid to become
anything more than an acquaintance unless they said something
first. now that i am ready to take the initiave, my chances of
seeing those people ever again are very low and i regret it at
random times of the day. my main reasons were that i didn't
want them to think i was clingy, and for the guys i was worried
about what others (especially other girls) would think of me
being so bold/flirtatious (which brings me back to resolution 1).
so what i learned is that most of the time the person will not be
weirded out if you ask for their number or ask to hang out
sometime etc. and they are mean about it then do you really want
to be talking to them anyway? also with the girls thing, stop
giving a flying frick if girls think you're a
"slvt" or a "whcre" for going after what you
want. there is nothing wrong with being confident and outgoing,
that does NOT make you a lady of the night. and the amount of
times you've done any scxual acts does not define you or your
worth as a human being. the worst that can happen is that you get
turned down by any said person, and that's okay--because
there are billions of other people in the world and i'm sure
at least more than one of them would love to get to know you.
tl;dr don't let anything or anyone hold you back from
trying to get to know a person bc you could be missing an
opportunity for one of the best friendships/relationships of your
life
if you read this all, hoped i helped some of this could have been
worded better but i tried my best
thank you have a good rest of 2015