There's this guy at work that I have known for almost 3 years now.
I always thought he was cute, but then I started seeing someone
(also from work).
Then after the company's Christmas dinner this guy came up to me
& grabbed my hand. I told him to get his friend some water as he
had just thrown up. (They were all drunk and I was the DD) I
didn't really think much of him trying to hold my hand, despite
me being in a relationship with someone else.
After a few months my SO and I went to an OpenAir concert where
this guy from work was with his friends. At first I didn't even
realize what was happening around me as I was pretty drunk
myself. But then at some point I realized that he was holding my
hand again. I tried holding it up to check if maybe he would let
go as I was not "holding it back". Didn't work. & didn't really
care at that point. A few months back we were at a festival where
we ran into him as well, but nothing happened there. Except for
the part that I realized that I might to start crushing on
Another few months go by and the next christmas dinner was
happening. I was no longer in a relationship, but we remained
friends. At this point we hadn't really told anyone yet about the
break up. So we sat at the table with this guy and we told him. &
I also told him that no one would get mad anymore, if he should
try to hold hands again. He had his thinking look on his face &
after a moment he said: "I can't promise anything."
So after the dinner we all decided to go to the bar. By now
everyone was pretty drunk. I started to cling onto him & since he
didn't seem to mind I continued doing so. I hooked my arm with
his, gave him random hugs and by the end of the night he even
hopped on my back. This was the point where I started crushing on
I started to ask him to have a drink, to hang out, to go drive
around, to the movies, etc. pretty much any idea I could come up
with to spend time with him. To my surprise he almost always said
yes, if he said no it was because he already had other plans, but
always "made it up" to me by setting up another time.
During this time he spend a few weeks abroad for work. On the
second business trip he added 2 weeks of vacation. Before he'd
left for the second trip we talked about his vacation and he was
telling my about him going to NYC for a few days. Turned out that
he was going alone, so I saw my chance and jokingly said I could
join him as I had already put in my vacation days.
So a few weeks later I met him in NYC. We had a few amazing days
together, but on the "love-side" nothing really happened.
Although, he was always really caring about me.