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So there's this girl I know, same one I asked you about before. We are pretty good friends now and I have told her i love her and all that. She says she likes me just as a friend and while I'm find with that, I was word eign if you had any additional advice for me

Hey Christopher. So, I'm gotta question. I'm friends with this guy, and he's told me he has a crush on me, and we talk a lot over the internet instead of real life since he kind of lives a little far away. And when we talk he sometimes gets a little flirty. I've told him that I'm not into dating and that I think it's a waste of time but he says stuff like 'if I was there beside you, would you let me cuddle you' and I ask him how he would want to cuddle and sometimes he replies with things like this: ''if your back was pressed into my chest and you were holding my hand, and ever so often I was kiss your neck and rub your thigh' and he also says stuff like " I wanna kiss my bestfriend" which he means me.and he asks me how I feel about that, and I tell him how I feel about that, and explain why I wouldn't exactly want him to kiss me. He says he understands and respects that. And he asks me if I'm uncomfortable with what he's said or whatever, because sometimes I know he's getting a little deep. He tells me he dreams about me pinning him down and kissing him and stuff. But I'm not really sure what to think. What do yiu think about him, or what he says... and tha whole situation? Thanks-Atira

I simply think the guy has a crush on you. He seems a lot like me, but I only keep talking about it I the girl likes me too...
Does h think you like him?
Just keep being honest about how you feel, that's important.

Okay, thanks. And no... I've never really had a crush that I'm aware of. I'm just not really into all that boyfriend/girlfriend dating stuff..

Well there is this girl I leave a crush on. We are good friends but this is her last year before she graduates. She has a boyfriend who graduated this year and now I didn't know what to do cause I want to be to know her better and maybe even ask her to homecoming but i don't know quite what to do. Any advice?

Hey, so my ex and I broke up about 5 months ago. We stopped talking for like 3 months completely and it was just really really awkward between us. Then a couple months ago we started texting every now and then just to say hi. Then like a month and a half ago we started texting and talking again and really haven't stopped since. He sends me goodnorning and goodnight texts all the time and we text every day. He tells me pretty much everything now and he always says if I ever need advice or help he'll be there. He even compliments me sometimes too. I thought I was finally over him and then we started talking again and I really like him again. Some of his friends have told me we should get back together but he has a new girlfriend. He has been going out with her for a couple months now. I would normally just back off but one of my friends is really close with his new girl and said that she told her she likes someone else. I don't want to see him hurt when he finally finds out but I also don't want to tell him because he might not believe me and it could ruin whatever we have now. What do you think I should do about the whole thing?
Thank you so much for reading/helping me if you do. And for helping all these other girls too, I'm here if you ever need advice about girls or anything really (:

Heey I'm Tay, uh I just read one of your quotes and sitting here thinking people cant judge other people.. . Its just wrong and makes me mad! Ugh anyway just be you and if people cant accept that, screw them! Who cares :-)

Hey Chris! okay so my friend Bethany just recently started dating this one boy named Jared (derr like sooo cute together!!! ohhmeerrgeerrrshh! lol) anyways well i told her that'd i'd ask you about her question: "So me and this one guy named Jared just recently started dating. Well he keeps telling everyone that he wants to kiss me. But he hasn't tried to yet or he won't even talk to me about it. soooo i was wondering, should i make the first move? and if so....how?" Well that was her question. IF you could ppleeeeeaaaasssseeeee answer it.... that'd be GREAT!

She should bring it up to him, tell her that she should talk to Jared about kissing, THAT, or tell here to hug him and sort of tilt her head towards him, and try to kiss him, if he's smart, he'll realize she's trying to kiss him, and he'll go with it. Believe it or not, it's mor awkward for the guy with a first kiss, because he is expected to be the one to kiss her, and expected to sort of lead everything. Trust me, it was pretty awkward for me too.

Ohh! okay! well thank you sooo much! lol i'll definatly tell her this and once again thanks...

So your like a athis and I learned at school today that there might be no god cuz scientificly ' an explosion happend and people jus popped into earth' but also you have mythically that ' a white mist started calling himself god and made people with a bone ' idk google wat sapiens beleived in and u may find it :P BTW NICE PROFILE ND CUTE SHIRT IN PIC :)

Hahaha I've known about all of this for a long time, I'm not an atheist, I'm agnostic, I believe in science. But, the big bang theory proves itself wrong because it states that the universe was the largest celestial object, and it was contained in a large ball form then exploded. But if the universe is the largest celestial unit, then what contained that spacial ball that held the universe? Boom, science proved wrong.

We are literally best friends, and sometimes we flirt. It would just so awks to tell him how I feel.

This kid and I met a while ago and I just recently started talking to him, he's really shy but amazing at the same time, so I fell in love with him. I tell people I like them when I do because I stink at hiding things. I talked to him with his friends around (both female and male) and ever since then he has been angry at me, but whenever I ask him what I did he refuses to answer me. I know he's shy, but by any chance do you know why he might be acting this way?

He may just be trying to drive you away, honestly...

So my question has two parts:
1. How do you know if you've been friend zoned by a guy ( and for what reason)?
2. The guy Im in love with knows I liked this other guy last year. He warned me (and he was right). I don't like that guy anymore, how do I bring it up to the guy I'm in love with without it being super awkward?

You'll know you're friendzoned when you tell them you like them, and they say they don't like you back. Try to tell him something like "Hey ____, you were right about that other guy... I haven't liked him for awhile now, and honestly, I kinda like you now." Or something like that. Sorry, just a bit preoccupied so I have to answer these quickly:P

a couple months ago he said he liked me and my friend(let's call her f i guess) to someone. i like him back.. and i told him.he said he liked me and not her. me and f both text him a lot and f told me that he keeps mentioning to her that he likes me. BUT. hes been acting weird recently. also i was talking to f at a party and him and his friends walked by and his friends pointed to f and were like "ooh ___(his name)"
do you have any idea why? i think he only likes her and is just trying to make her jealous by saying he likes me?

That doesn't make much sense, but ANYONE can like 2 people at the same time, unless you're dating, then that's a little more f*cked up... I don't really know what to say though:P

no i know. and its fine. its confusing how he never gives a straight answer though like hes not honest but whatever

So here's the story: He asks me out at Homecoming. I say yes and then another girl declares her never-ending love and kisses him. Right in front of me. He broke up with me the next day so he could tell her off in as nice a way as possible.

And now, he really really really likes (maybe even loves) me and I really really really like (maybe even love) him. But why won't he ask me out? Am I doing something wrong? Am I not good enough anymore cuz I told him I cut?

Plain and simple, ask him out yourself...

That's a big problem for a lot of girls, none of them are willing to ask the guy out themselves. They just decide, "He'll do it eventually, I'll just wait :3" but it never happens because, they don't "hit the iron while it's hot" so to speak.

-_- I feel like an idiot for not thinking of that myself. thanks!

Why do guys get nervous about asking a girl, even when they KNOW she'll say yes?

Hahah because well, it's a hard thing to do. Girls do the same thing, they KNOW the guy will say yes but won't ask him out if he's too afraid.

hey, so I'm "talking" to this guy and he's 19 and I'm 16, but we don't really pay attention to the age...but why does he talk about cuddling and how much he wants us to date one minute, but the next minute he's telling me how much of a biitch I am...why's he doing this to me? :/

CUZ HE DONT LIKE YO ASHH

Honestly, that doesn't make any sense to me... PTSS maybe.

So I have another question:
It's about the same guy as before, they new kid in school last year who is now being homeschooled....well the week of our homecoming he came in at the end of the day. I was SO HAPPY, he responded to the note I wrote him (3 pages) and he gave me a shark tooth necklace (That I wear everyday) then when I got home I found out that he was moving to South Carolina. I guess you can say devastated was an understatement on how I felt that day. He came in about 2 weeks later to say good-bye one last time. I stayed after and took the late bus home just so I could be with him that much longer. When my friend and I left (she stayed after too) I cried my eyes out. I couldn't help it. I have been upset ever since...And I just don't know what to do. And it doesn't help that the other guy that I have had like a small on and off crush on for the longest time...he's in almost all of my classes, and knows I exist, but he goes for the better girls. (I mean it's understandable....but it still hurts) and I just STILL feel so alone. Like more than ever. I almost broke down twice today in school...and it was a half day. I guess part of this was to get another opinion on what I should do/what could be done, and the other reason was to let it out...I don't feel right talking to anyone about it because I feel like they are tired of hearing about it. Thank you in advance for listening/reading, and helping not only me....but all of the other people you have helped! It really means a lot! :)

Don't try to "be" over the other guy, when you don't actually feel that way. If you feel ready to move on, then my advice to you, is to tell the other guy how you feel. Human psychology states that, when one person is attracted to another, and the other party is aware of the infatuation, the second party slowly, but surely will develop more serious feelings for the original person. So just tell him how you feel, and try to talk to him more if you haven't been already.(: Hope everything goes well!

I like a guy hats super desperate, so when I try to flirt..he
Flirts back but he also flirts with every other girl... How do I show him that he doesn't need to be desperate because there is people out there that like him...?

A guy told me he liked me and i told him i liked him too. But then he never said anything else on the subject. But I was seeing him the next day because I had to spend the day at his school, so I figured he was waiting to ask me out in person. But then when he was on his way to meet me after school his friend texted me saying to tell him that he'll be like 5 minutes late and to wait for him before smoking. I don't mind when he smokes but he promised me he would always tell me when he does it. He told me he would try to quit for me. Then I was mad that he didn't tell me and I told him to forget it and just go smoke. He didn't even try he just said okay and left. So we got into I fight about that. But then we started talking again two days later and we were just fine, but he wasn't flirting as much. Then 2 days later he starts venting to me about the girl, Sarah, he likes and that she likes him too, but they live too far. What the hell is with this kid? What should I do? Me and him are still friends..

Hey! Your answer should be up now. I hope it helped! If it didn't, feel free to ask me again, and I'll try to be more detailed in have more clarity. Have a nice day!(:

thank you soo much(: and I cut the guy out of my life. And moved on, I didn't even really like him, I liked the things he said to me! stupid players these days....

Hi.

Hello:D

All right. If a guy tells you the size of his ummm ahhh *cough cough* a few days after confessing he had a addiction, what does that mean? Why on earth would I care about the size of his ummm ahhh *cough cough*?

Thank you. Can I ask another question, or am I bugging you too much?-SheDreamer

Go right ahead!(: