It's important to be firm and direct. This might be a bit difficult for you, but it's necessary to get your point across. Look the person in the eye when you speak, stand straight and tall, don't stutter or pause. Be clear on what you want from them. (''I'm tired of being taken advantage of. I'm not a doormat for you to walk all over, I am a person. Lose the games and dishonesty, or lose me.'' Something along those lines.) As a very compassionate person myself, I also find it hard to put my foot down and tell people 'no' on occasion, but it has to be done sometimes. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else, and if that makes you the 'bad guy', so be it.
Tell them if they want you to be able to trust them again then they need to treat you with respect, be respectful but simply tell them that if they want things to keep being okay with you two then this needs to change.
That's my advice, you might need to adapt the wording according to what relationship you have with this person.
Really, you aren't. Those people have no idea what they're talking about. How could someone who thinks their purpose in life is "to make other people feel better" possibly be a bad person? How could I possibly love and care so much about an awful person?
That's my advice, you might need to adapt the wording according to what relationship you have with this person.
Who's there?
You're adopted.
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