G
rief
may be a thing we all have in common but it looks different on
everyone. It isn’t just death we have to grieve.
It’s life, it’s loss, it’s change. And when
we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, it has to hurt
so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn
on a dime. That’s how you stay alive when it hurts so
much you can’t breathe. That’s how you survive. By
remembering that one day somehow, impossibly, it won’t
feel this way. It wont hurt this much. Grief comes in
it’s own time for everyone in it’s own way. So the
best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty. The
really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you
can’t control it. The best we can do is try to let
ourselves feel it when it comes and let it go when we can. The
very worst part is that the minute you think you’re past
it, it starts all over again and always, every time, it takes
your breath away. There are five stages of grief. They look
different on all of us but there is always five. Denial, anger,
bargaining, depression,
acceptance.
GREY'S ANATOMY
GREY'S ANATOMY
“We
assume the really serious changes in our lives happen slowly,
over time but it’s not true.The big stuff happens in an
instant. Becoming an adult, becoming a parent.Sometimes you don’t even know anything’s
changed. You think you’re still you and your life is
still your life. But you wake up one day and you look around
and you dont recognize anything, not anything at
all.”
grey's anatomy
grey's anatomy
we spend
our whole lives worrying about the future, planning the future,
trying to predict the future. As if figuring it out will
somehow cushion the blow but the future is always changing. The
future is the whole of our deepest fears and our wildest hopes
but one thing is certain When it finally reveals itself, the
future is never the way we imagined it
grey's anatomy
grey's anatomy
I m a k e n o a p o l o g i e s f o r
h o w I c h o s e t o r e p a i r w h a t
you broke.
Doesn't
matter how tough we are.. trauma always leaves a scar.It
follows us home, it changes our lives..trauma messes everybody
up.But maybe that's the point, all the pain, and the fear,
and the crap..Maybe going through all that is what keeps us
moving forward.It's what pushes us.Maybe we have to get a
little messed up before we can step
up.
Grey's anatomy
Grey's anatomy
Y o u c a n h a v e
anything.in.life.if.you
s a c r i f i c e
everything.else.for.it
recovery
is not a team sport.
It’s a solitary distance run. It’s
long. It’s exhausting and it’s lonely
as hell.
…
The length of your recovery is determined by the extent of your injuries and is not always successful. No matter how hard we work at it, some wounds might never fully heal. You might have to adjust to a whole new way of living. Things may have changed too radically to ever go back to what they were. You might not even recognize yourself. It’s like you haven’t recovered anything at all. You’re a whole new person with a whole new life.
…
The length of your recovery is determined by the extent of your injuries and is not always successful. No matter how hard we work at it, some wounds might never fully heal. You might have to adjust to a whole new way of living. Things may have changed too radically to ever go back to what they were. You might not even recognize yourself. It’s like you haven’t recovered anything at all. You’re a whole new person with a whole new life.
“B
iology says that we are who we are from birth. That our
biology is set in stone, unchangeable. Our DNA doesn’t
account for all of us though. We’re humans, life changes
us. We develop new traits, become less territorial. We stop
competing. We learn from our mistakes. We face our greatest
fears. For better or worse, we find ways to become more than
our biology. The risk, of course, is that we can change too
much. To the point that we don’t recognize ourselves.
Finding our way back can be difficult. There’s no
compass, no map. We just have to close our eyes, take a step
and hope to God we get there..”
grey's anatomy
grey's anatomy
how
much
can you actually accomplish in an
hour? Run an errand maybe, sit in traffic, get an
oil change? When you think about it, an hour
isn’t very long. Sixty minutes, thirty six
hundrend seconds, that’s it.
It can change
everything, forever. An hour can save your life. An
hour can change your life. Sometimes it is just a
gift we give ourselves. For some, it can mean
almost nothing. For others, an hour means all the
difference in the world but in the end, it’s
still just an hour. One of many, many more to come.
Sixty minutes, thirty six hundred seconds,
that’s it and it starts all over again and
who knows what the next hour might
hold.
“E very cell in the human body regenerates, on average, every seven years. Like snakes, in our own way, we shed our skin. Biologically we’re brand new people. We may look the same, we probably do. The change isn’t visible, at least not on must of us but were all changed completed forever.
…
When we say things like, “People don’t change.” It drives scientists crazy because change is literally the only constant. Energy, matter, it’s always changing, morphing, merging, growing, dying. It’s the way people try not to change that’s unnatural. The way we cling to what things were instead of letting them be what they are. The way we cling to old memories instead of forming new ones. The way we insist on believing despite every scientific indication that anything in this life time is permanent. Change is constant. How we experience change, that is up to us. It can feel like death or it can feel like a second chance at life. If we open our fingers, loosen our grips, go with it. It can feel like pure adrenaline. Like at any moment, we can have another chance at life. Like at any moment we can be born all over again.”
grey's anatomy
